Sunday, October 9, 2016

My friend Beth



Written May 2012

My friend Beth (not her real name) has developed a very aggressive, life threatening form of cancer called “small cell cancer” of the lung.  Being a fiercely independent woman, she didn’t tell too many people except for her immediate family and a few individuals at her job.   

After hearing about her illness, I traveled to see Beth to give her Reiki and hopefully make her a little more comfortable.  When I arrived at her house, we laughed and cried over lost time, misplaced memories, and current circumstances.  She looked drawn and pale; she’d lost quite a bit of weight.  I sat next to her at the end of the sofa and I took her feet into my lap.  I put my hands on her ankles and immediately Reiki energy began to flow. After about 20 minutes, she thanked me and said she needed to go to bed and we said goodnight.

The next several days I gave Beth Reiki three times a day.  The amount of energy her body was taking was tremendous, not unusual for cancer patients; and it made me sweat.  Color began coming back into her cheeks, her appetite improved, she was less tired and her personality was lighter, more carefree as I remembered. And as old friends have a way of doing, we enjoyed each other’s company. 

She told me about the fears she had that the cancer had metastasized.  From the amount of energy she was taking at each session, I also feared the worst. There was a CAT scan coming up next week that would give her more information on what was going on in her body. We would have to wait and see.

I needed to leave for a few days, but would return. I asked her what she would do while I was gone. She announced that she was going to Atlantic City. I was appalled. All I could think of was, “the Reiki energy was given to help strengthen her body, to become better able to deal with whatever is happening now, and she is throwing it away!”  After several attempts to reason with her, she told me in a gentle but firm manner, “don’t tell me what to do with my life.” I threw my hands up in surrender. She was right. I had no right to tell her what she should or shouldn’t do. Going to a casino could be good medicine since it made her happy, even if she needed a wheelchair to get around! 

I forced myself from checking in on her every hour that I was gone, but when I got back some days later, she was there in her chair, typing away on her computer looking at me as if saying, “so what was all the fuss about?”  She was fine, a little debilitated from the trip, but fine. 

As I said, Beth is a strong and fiercely independent woman. Last time I spoke to her, she was still traveling for her job and dictating exactly what she will and will not do with her life.  God Bless!

Emmy Martinez
Reiki Master
San Diego, CA


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